Want to Be Happy? 13 Things Holding you Back from Success

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I’ve got sh!t to do and love to make! If I could only tell you about one thing that I’ve learned in all my years, it’s that I am the biggest thing that has ever held me back from something. Fear and anxiety weighed me down for much longer than I’d like to admit. And since moving on and overcoming those insecurities, I’ve created a life of overwhelming abundance and happiness.
It wasn’t easy but I’m so grateful that I was able to. What is easy, is to get lost in the rush of things and to lose yourself and who you are. The things that you’re doing that are holding you back from success and from being truly happy are just some lifestyle changes. You can easily start making these changes as soon as today.
You are always in control of how you react to a situation. Even if your original reaction is anger, you can catch it and change the way that you are behaving. The way you perceive things and handle a situation are both things that you can take hold of and use to move on with. If you want to be happy you have to allow yourself to be happy and to allow things to happen when they need to.
There are so many things that we do that end up holding you back from success.
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1. You won’t just do it

 Something is holding you back and you’re allowing that to happen. It’s the equivalent to standing on the bridge, ready to jump in the river below, but something’s holding you back. You have your hand still gripping onto something. You just won’t do it! And it’s holding you back from success. With everything in life, we need to be a little uncomfortable before change can happen. If you stick with your typical daily routine, then you’re not opening yourself up for something new to happen. It can be horrifying, but it’s totally worth it.

2. You’re still comparing yourself to others.

What other’s think of me is none of my business and I don’t let it affect what I do. Say it with me! Seriously. If you’re looking at what someone else is doing and where they are in their journey, you’re not doing yourself any justice. What other people are doing doesn’t effect what you’re doing. And what you think they *might* be thinking about you, shouldn’t matter either. Focus on what you’re doing and what you’ve done! That’s what matters and comparing yourself to others is doing nothing but holding you back from success.

3. You’re letting the negative voice overcome the positive one.

You know that little negative voice in your head that feeds your fear, anxiety, depression, self-criticism, etc etc? The more you listen to it, the more you’re allowing it to overcome the positive one. And if you want to be happy, then you’re going to have to learn how to make that little voice take a back seat- or better yet kick it out of the car entirely. Tell yourself positive things. When you start to think something negative about yourself, either stop it in it’s tracks and replace it with a positive, or follow it up with a positive thought about yourself. I challenge you to do this for 24 hours. See the difference it makes! Positive affirmations are a great example of this in action! Sign up for my positive affirmation booklet and email series here to help get you started!

4. You’re hanging on to limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs are those that you tell yourself as an excuse to not doing something. For example, “I can’t buy that swimsuit (or any article of clothing) until I lose weight”. Well, you may not be able to buy that size, but you can still buy that object! If it’s something that would make you happy and feel yourself, then there is nothing that you need to do first before you do it. Of course, if you want to work from home or have your own business, quitting your day job may not be an option at first, but use it as an eventual goal.

5. You aren’t paying attention to how you truly feel about a situation.

Instead of listening to how you truly feel about a particular situation, you’re pretending to feel a different way. I know I do this a lot in the form of pretending that it simply doesn’t affect me when that’s not in the least bit true. Your emotions and intuition that we experience are there for a reason, it’s time to start listening to them. For the next week instead of denying them, listen to them instead!

6. You’re collecting things not memories.

In case the name of my blog didn’t give it away, I’m a huge fan of minimalism. Before I caved into it, I collected ton so objects and refused to give them away. I had clothes I never wore, items I stored in boxes never to see the light of days, and was constantly having to clean my space. The problem with our constant need to have the latest trend is that we are left collecting the wrong things; items. Instead we should be thinking about our next road trip or our next vacation.

7. You’re in something that’s a ‘dead end’.

From a dead end job to a dead end relationship, there is something in your life that you know isn’t going anywhere. And its the hanging on that is holding you back from success. If you don’t leave that comfort zone, or accept some change, then you can’t move forward. This can be extremely hurtful and cause some tears, but in the end you’ll be better off. The grass is greener on the other side but you have to get to the other side first.

8. You haven’t started a gratitude journal.

Daily gratitude is such a tremendous tool for our mental and spiritual health and wellness. When we can be grateful for the things in our life, we shut the door to needing other things and open the door to being happy with where we are in the present moment. I say “I am grateful” to everyday in my daily affirmations. It keeps my heart full and focused. Because I have enough now and that’s what matters.

**Did I mention I know where you can participate in an awesome gratitude and even self-care challenge? Check it out here!**

9. You don’t practice self-care.

Not practicing self-care is easily the biggest thing that you’re doing that is holding you back from success. So many people think that it’s selfish to practice self-care, when really it’s the least selfish thing you can do. Your cup is only so full and you can’t help other people or truly live in the moment if you aren’t taking care of yourself. In the busy day to day hustle and bustle, it’s easy to forget that we need to take a few minutes out of the day to just do something that we like.

10. The wrong things are guiding you.

Our intuition is constantly trying to guide you in the direction that you need to take. The problem is, it’s easy to ignore what it’s trying to tell you and instead listen to the things that we’ve always ‘known’. For instance, you don’t have to just pay bills and die. Life isn’t about just having a typical job and about having a family anymore. Now if you’re job makes you happy or you’ve always dreamed of having a big family- do that! Do what you love doing! Everyday and all the time!

11. You see change as an enemy.

The comfy box that you’ve been living in is actually holding you back from success. How rude of it right? When we are uncomfortable, we are experiencing change. And yes, change can be scary. But it’s opening up new possibilities and furthering you along in your journey! Embrace it and freely allow it to flow through your life. Think back to all the amazing things that have happened in your life. They all were possible because of change right?

12. You’re mistaking other’s expectations for what you want.

Other people and their expectations have a stronger affect on us then we would like to believe. It doesn’t mean that we are a weak person, but when someone we care about is saying something about us; we listen. A roadblock arises when we start listening to this advice so much that we begin to think that it’s something we actually want. There’s a nagging voice in the back of you mind (aka your intuition) that is saying “No, we should do _____ instead.” but that’s easier to ignore. Well start listening to it instead!

13. You’re listening to your own excuses.

You are your own biggest enemy. And your excuses are the way you lose the battle with yourself. Stop telling yourself that you need to do something else first before you do the thing you really want. It’s an excuse and nothing is holding you back but your own fears and anxieties. You’ve totally got this! Sometimes you have to give yourself a nudge out the door.

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